ON FREQ ARGUMENT BTWN PIC AND ATC CTLR.

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ON CLBOUT FROM BOS THE CAPT AND DEP CTL GOT INTO AN ARGUMENT; OVER THE RADIO; ABOUT THE HANDLING OF OUR FLT. BOTH THE CAPT AND THE CTLR WERE VERY UNPROFESSIONAL. THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR CAN'T BE TOLERATED; FOR IT BREAKS DOWN THE SAFETY CHAIN. A CONTRIBUTING FACTOR WAS THE CAPT BEING VERY STRESSED FROM A FAMILY EMER. THIS WAS THE FIRST LEG OF THE FLT HOME FOR HIM. BEING AWARE OF THIS; I WAS BEING EXTRA CAUTIOUS SO AS TO CATCH ANY ERRORS BEING MADE; BUT THAT COULDN'T HELP PREVENT THE ARGUMENT. THE ARGUMENT WAS OVER A NOISE ABATEMENT PROC THAT CAUSES UNDUE VECTORING; NO MATTER THE ALT (WE WERE AS HIGH AS 14000 FT WITH APCH). THE INFO ON THIS PROC ISN'T READILY AVAILABLE TO THE PLTS. THE 'LOGAN 9 SID' TELLS TURBOJET ACFT TO EXPECT TO CROSS THE SHORE ABOVE 6000 FT. AS WITH MANY OTHER NOISE ABATEMENT PROCS THIS ONE IS RIDICULOUS. EVEN SO; THE BEHAVIOR OF THE CAPT AND THE CTLR WAS WAY OUT OF LINE. THERE ARE TIMES WHEN ALL OF US GET UPSET OR FRUSTRATED WHILE FLYING OR WORKING; BUT WE CANNOT LET THAT INTERFERE WITH PROFESSIONALISM AND SAFETY.