IFR C421 ON APCH TO RIVERSIDE ARPT IN TULSA; OK; EXPERIENCED WX PROBS; EXECUTED MISSED APCH WITH ATC REFUSING VECTORS TO OTHER THAN FILED ALTERNATE.

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I WAS ON A FLT GOING TO THE RIVERSIDE ARPT IN TULSA; OK. THERE WAS A LINE OF TSTMS ALONG AND BEHIND A WARM FRONT RUNNING FROM JUST S OF TULSA DOWN IN TO WESTERN TEXAS. I VISUALLY AVOIDED ALL TSTMS; BUT WAS CONSEQUENTLY HELD UP LONGER THAN I WOULD HAVE LIKED. AS A RESULT; I WAS FORCED TO MAKE STEEP DSCNT RATES DURING MY LETDOWN ONTO THE ILS RWY 1L APCH AT RIVERSIDE ALL THE WHILE BEING VECTORED AROUND AREAS OF MODERATE RAIN SHOWERS S OF THE FIELD. AS I ROLLED OUT ON THE LOC APCH COURSE I MANAGED TO GET THE AIRPLANE STABILIZED AND EVERYTHING WAS GOING FINE; HOWEVER; I WAS NOW EXPERIENCING A BIT OF VERTIGO. I WAS FIGHTING IT PRETTY HARD AND I MANAGED TO FLY THE GS FAIRLY WELL; HOWEVER; I WAS HAVING A TOUGH TIME WITH THE LOC. I HAD MY HANDS FULL. JUST BEFORE DECISION HT MY LOC WENT FULL SCALE DEFLECTION AND I HAD TO GO MISSED APCH. I WAS STILL IN IMC ANYWAY. THE PROB WAS I FAILED TO EXECUTE THE MISSED CORRECTLY. I INADVERTENTLY DID NOT CLB DUE TO MY VERTIGO. ALTHOUGH I WAS SCANNING MY INSTS I NOTICED I HAD NOT CLBED. I WAS ASSIGNED 270 DEGS ON THE HDG AND 4000 FT ON THE MISSED. I DID EVENTUALLY GET MY CLB GOING AND FOUGHT THROUGH THE VERTIGO. I HAD JUST PUT MYSELF AND MY PAX IN DANGER. HOWEVER; WHEN I WENT TO DEP I WAS FACED WITH ANOTHER CHALLENGE I HAD NOT EXPECTED. THE CTLR ASKED ME OF MY INTENTIONS AND I INFORMED HIM THAT I WISHED TO GO TO MY ALTERNATE; BUT THAT I WANTED TO CHANGE MY ALTERNATE TO PONCA CITY. MY FILED ALTERNATE WAS LAWTON; OK; BACK IN THE DIRECTION OF THE TSTMS. PONCA CITY WAS GREAT FOR ME BECAUSE MY PAX HAD A JOB TO DO THERE IN THE MORNING ANYWAY; AND THE WX THERE WAS VFR AND ON A 300 DEG BEARING WHICH I WAS ALREADY ON WITH A 270 DEG HDG. HOWEVER; THE CTLR REFUSED TO AMEND MY FLT PLAN AND CLR ME TO PONCA CITY. HE WAS ARGUING THAT I HAD TO GET A NEW CLRNC FOR THAT FROM FSS AND INSISTED THAT I CHANGE FREQS TO GET THIS CLRNC. I HUMORED HIM AND WENT TO MCALISTER RADIO TO SEE WHAT THEY COULD DO AND THEY TOLD ME THEY COULD NOT DO THAT SO I WENT BACK TO THE APCH CTLR. IN A MOMENT OF HIGH WORKLOAD AND HIGH STRESS AND FRUSTRATION WITH THAT CTLR I TOLD THEM THAT MCALISTER RADIO HAD MY ALTERNATE CHANGED. I FELT THAT THIS WAS THE ONLY WAY TO KEEP ME; MY PAX; AND MY AIRPLANE OUT OF HARM'S WAY. FIGHTING MY WAY S THROUGH TSTMS IS NOT MY IDEA OF THE BEST ALTERNATIVES. ONCE I TOLD HIM I HAD IT CHANGED WITH MCALISTER; HE IMMEDIATELY WITH NO TROUBLE AT ALL CLRED ME TO PONCA CITY. WE ARRIVED IN PONCA CITY UNDER CLR SKIES AND UNLIMITED VISIBILITY AND LANDED WITHOUT INCIDENT. THE BIGGEST THING WAS I CANNOT UNDERSTAND WHY THE CTLR WAS SO DETERMINED TO MAKE ME FLY S THROUGH TSTMS AND OUT OF MY WAY FOR NOTHING. I KNOW THE CTLR COULD HAVE CHANGED OUR DEST FOR THEY DO IT ALL THE TIME. I WAS ALREADY FLYING AWAY FROM ALL MAJOR ARPTS AND WOULD HAVE NOT HAVE INTERFERED WITH ANY APCHING TFC. I WOULD HAVE FILED PONCA CITY AS MY ALTERNATE; BUT EVERYTHING AHEAD OF THE FRONT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE LOW IFR WHEN I FILED MY FLT PLAN. IT JUST SO HAPPENED TO BE VFR IN PONCA CITY WHEN WE GOT TO TULSA. OBVIOUSLY; THE WX DID NOT TURN OUT AS FORECASTED; BECAUSE TULSA WAS SUPPOSED TO BE 600 FT OVCST WITH 1.5 MI VISIBILITY. IN FACT; THE ASOS WAS RPTING 600 FT AND 1.5 MI VISIBILITY WHEN I TUNED IT IN BEFORE TALKING TO TUL APCH ON MY WAY IN. I FEEL SOME CTLRS FORGET THAT THEY ARE THERE FOR US AND NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. GRANTED; I NEED AND AM ALREADY GETTING SOME PRACTICE FLYING APCHS AND MISSED APCHS IN ACTUAL; AND FORTUNATELY MY PROFICIENCY WILL COME THROUGH TRAINING; TIME IN THE AIRPLANE; AND EXPERIENCE. HOWEVER; THIS CTLR SEEMED TO BE WELL SEASONED; DISGRUNTLED; AND FORGETFUL OF HIS MISSION TO MAKE AIR TRAVEL SAFER FOR EVERYONE.